A single mother, who lives in Lenasia, is being abused by her eldest son. She is mentally, verbally and sometimes physically abused.
She has requested to remain anonymous to protect her other children. Luclay Govender* is a drug abuser.
The mother disclosed she is insulted and harassed by Govender on a regular basis. She claims she has been called humiliating names when Govender has consumed drugs.
She said the police pay monthly visits to monitor Govender’s behaviour. On a few occasions, he has been arrested for possession of drugs.
He generally makes life difficult and creates a dysfunctional environment. “The abuse is too much,” the mother complains.
Govender’s father passed away last year, but his mother claims it does not validate his behaviour. She suspects the drugs might have damaged him psychologically because his behaviour is not of a normal person.
According to her he started taking drugs at the age of 16. He dropped out of school in Gr10.
Govender’s mother is concerned Govender’s younger brother is being exposed to this abuse, and is in potential danger.
“I hate going home, it is hell. There was a time where he said I should die and he would not even care,” said the tearing mother.
She explained she has experienced brutality. Govender poured boiling water over her earlier this year. “When he poured hot water over me, I ran out screaming,” she said.
“I wanted to commit suicide and he said I should go ahead.” Govender responded by saying he would not even go to the funeral.
At this point, she decided she had had enough, and opened a domestic abuse case at the Lenasia SAPS. She further went to court to acquire a protection order against him, of which he violated.
“The magistrate gave him a chance by not convicting him. They said he just needed to change his attitude,” Govender’s mother commented.
She said she keeps on smiling but it is just a front. A home is meant to be a place of safety and security, a place of love and warmth, but for her it is hell.
Her two daughters left home because of the verbal abuse. They were constantly told they were ugly and useless.
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